...friends H, said that he doesn't think H is capable of being emotionally connected with anyone. He went on to say all of this has nothing to do with me, that H has issues and that I should just keep moving forward and living life. I told him I agree with all of that and that is exactly what I am doing! I found it interesting that he could see that, not many people can outside of here!.
That seems to sum up my H as well! H has lost most of his friends as he never made an effort in the friendship. Men or women need the other person to make somewhat of an effort, otherwise there isn't a friendship. Your H may be finding that it is too difficult to emotionally connect with anyone other than you. You have a shared history and S which provide an emotional connection without any work on his behalf. His new life was a distraction from emotional needs; however at some point he does have needs which he wants met. He doesn't know how to open up and get those needs met by the new friends. So, he is still looking to you for a level of emotional support. If you feel like you can enjoy his company without expectations than continue spending the time with him.
Congrats on S GATE scores. Hope this opens some good doors for him. I think it is great the H wanted to make a big deal out of the results. It is nice the he values accomplishments of your S.
Too funny about the younger guys!
You are doing great. Keep up strong and look forward!
H: 48 Me: 47 Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs 2 teen-Ds and S H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014) D-Bomb: 2/2015 H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015 I filed: 7/2015
