Sorry fat finger syndrome, my edit took too long as I was thinking. duh!
H is reluctant to accept he is an abuser as it does not suit him to do so and the fact may be damaging to him. Reality is tough to bear and abusers only face it after consequences for behaviour. H ending up with the result that he would like is reward not consequences. So his actions have few hard consequences for H and in order to restore himself to his own high opinion he will have to self deceive, blame Z and rewrite history. To be expected, he will counter what he believes are your views and statements to others.
I am glad you recorded your conversation, I believe it's a good strategy in abuse sitches, but unhelpful in others. In general when we ruminate recording others is problematic as it causes looping. In abuse sitches then it becomes important as shock can cause us to doubt our reality. If this helped you clarify then it was a good choice for you Z.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 04/13/1505:05 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
