Gg- I know if it ends the limbo it might be a good thing. But giving her an ultimatum is not necessarily the best thing to do either, I'm starting to regret my decision already =/ Thank you for telling me that its not the end until i decide when that is. Sometimes i feel like I'm already there, but I'm not sure at this point.
Mozza- I don't know. Thats the best answer i have right now. I really don't know. Interesting question.
------ So a little background on what happened. W changed her FB profile pic to her and OM's kid. And she blocked me on FB. My immediate reaction and thought was...wtf. We were talking for real about you coming back this past weekend, and now you block me and change your picture to that? I overreacted and got really upset and blew up her phone and gave her an ultimatum, which she is supposed to answer tomorrow.
Right now, Ive talked to a couple people, and am regretting my decision. Am i right to be upset? Yea. But picking THIS fight, this fight over a picture? It was not of her and OM, but her and his kid. Yes, it still hurts, but in the end, like someone called me out and said...I picked a fight over a FB profile picture. That didnt even include OM. And she blocked me yes. But I blocked her first a week ago and then unblocked her.
Knee jerk reaction by me. Picking a dumb fight. I actually talked to DB coach 2 days ago. And was warned that when W gets closer to coming home, she will test me, push my buttons and DB coach asked me "what buttons will she push?" Well she got me. and failed. miserably. i acted pretty typical T, blowing up her phone, getting angry over dumb things. And gave my WIFE an ultimatum over a PICTURE. Im such an idiot.
I was going to apologize to her tonight, but did not for the following reasons
1. She is probably expecting me to say something back to her tonight (breaks the pattern if i don't) 2. This forces her to really think for the first time of what she really wants to do (I've already told her multiple times, if she wants a life there, just say the words and I'm done) 3. I will see what she says tomorrow, and apologize first and say sorry for overreacting (not necessarily that I'm in the wrong, but i should have handled it better) 4. Im still pretty hurt over it, i know its a dumb reason to pick a fight, of all things i could be upset about, but it still [censored] to see. ----- I don't think W will say anything tomorrow at all. I still believe she is incapable of making a decision. But i have learned, as someone wisely pointed out, that when pushed and pushed, i still resort to old habits. I still have not completely changed. and still have some growing to do.
We will see what she says tomorrow, if anything. I am praying pretty hard tonight. Thank you all so much for your kind responses and reading through my posts that as Pink said, am literally al over the place. =/
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ME: 28 W: 24 M: 2.5yrs T: 5yrs BD: 22 SEP 14 W Leaves: 5 OCT 14
