I agree with Gg on this. H is feeling sorry for H, poor H and his pity party. He is trying to move the responsibility for himself to Z. This is an appropriate use of try!
He has his settlement and wants fun and happiness, or his version of it. Which of course will be empty and when he discovers that then it will also be down to Z. I also have reservations on the fins, and prefer to get everything pinned down and in writing.
This is very fast S and D indeed. It might have taken your H a number of abuse cycles and Z being firm "I will not be abused" before H recognises he is an abuser. You know you can still stand for as long as you want and that is ok. Z stands for Z and her principles until she is ready to leave her M behind.
The cycle need not repeat for Z As long as Z recognises it and runs a mile from any frog who pretends to be a prince.
My only concern is for Z on this one as closure isn't all it's cracked up to be. There will always be open questions when we mind read. I am glad you recorded, I believe it's a good strategy in abuse sitches, but unhelpful in others.
Z it will be alright in the end and if it's not alright it's not the end, besides the fat lady hasn't sung.
((((((((Z))))))))))
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 04/13/1504:43 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
