Oh- and when you keep telling her "we can stop this" you are forcing her to keep moving.
Look- if she knows she can come back, but doesn't know if she'll have the strength to leave again, her best decision is to leave because she can always change her mind and use you as a plan B.
If, however, she sees you're moving on and not putting up with her BS...she'll have to make a DECISION.
YOU are the one that's keeping her from making a real decision, or suffering any consequences for her actions. You're an enabler! How can she suffer consequences when you'll instantly forgive and forget anything she does/says?
I know it stinks that we have to "play games" with our spouse. Maybe you think it's noble not to. But DBing is about doing what works regardless of how we feel. If following our feelings made an M work this forum wouldn't be here and neither would you.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
