Dating your spouse

[pilot]

But let me just offer my 2 cents of advice on dating your H while separated as I had a tad bit of experience. First, you need to quit thinking of what he is thinking. By that I mean, if you are working on yourself, and what you see as your own shortcomings from your relationship, he will notice. You are not going to make him want you by any single action, or any mannerism which is intended to get him back. Your objective is to become the person only a fool would leave. Go back to when you two first met. What was it about you that attracted him to you? How did you act then?

You must absolutely have a PMA. Even if you have to fake it, which we all had to at some point. He must see you happy, he must see you as having a positive outlook on your life, and see you as ok with out him if that is what life leads to. HE must once again want YOU. And more often than not, we want what we cannot have. So be very careful about being clingy or assuring him you will be there. He must think HE has a chance of losing YOU. That has been the one almost surefire way to get a WAS attention. Remember, his mind is not on fixing the M at this time, even if he seems to be working on it. He has his own demons right now and they are demons you cannot help him with. So spend your time working on you, and making those changes in you. The 180s, the GAL, the PMA are what will get his attention!