I too have had a few say I would do you too. Must be a bloke thing.
Some of the stuff up the top your h said was script, my h said the same apart from he's totally the victim and entitled to act out via the a! As I caused the whole shite pile and I could keep it.
Just know he's more than likely hurting and taking it out on you. It's not really about you, while if feels personal it's not really.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26