Winhamn intro - D in process, WAW

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any attempt you try and make to "clarify" what you might see as errors in her recollection of your past will be met with fury and push her farther away.

I do want to clarify that I do not talk about our relationship. The first couple days, actually the only time I talked about how we had good things, was Tuesday of last week when she told me she was continuing the divorce process.

That night, after the kids were in bed, I took anxiety meds and feel asleep. The next day I met with my IC, poured my heart out there, and she pointed me at DB, which as I said I was fairly familiar with the concepts, so I sort of snapped to.

It feels like there is a fine line between reminding her of how things were when they were good, and pursuing.

This might make it a little relatable to you via my own experience. I got my BD out of the blue. Always thought I had the perfect M. Never even dreamed we had a problem. After BD she was super distant. Just like very other WAS here. At that time I was not so much into the begging/crying but I was definitely crowding. Fast forward a month with a few date nights and other attempts I was making at reconnecting, and an event happened which made me decide to tell her I was done with our M. No sooner than those words coming out of my mouth she got up sat in my lap and it was hugs all day long. For the next few months everything seemed great in our M. We were getting along, laughing, sex, basically like this was all behind us. Then I discover OM. In future discussions she admits that during that time I thought we were reconciling, she was never even considering giving our M any effort.

I tell you this not to discourage you, but to let you know that it is very easy for people in our situation to want to grasp at any good news and latch on to it. But make no mistake her mind is not on you and not on working on your M.