I'm new and I'd like some help

[richn05]

Was wanting some feedback on laying down the ww/OM boundary doesn't that fall into pleading chasing and trying to persuade a ww!

Which I've been told is useless ! I mean ishe knows I know there's the OM we just don't talk about it ! Is it not better to let go and let that burn out than trying to control or implement any ultimatum, when my Ww first bd me (prior to db had I known the what I know now this might of been handled differently) me was one night I came home from work a few days after the " I met someone /ILYBNILWY Speech " she was on the front porch talking to OM I asked her to a least have enough respect not to do that when I was home she said hold on to him I'll call u back comes in and says I think we should separate I told mom today and she said her and my father lived together for six months after they separated I don't think we can do that so let's shoot for June you should be out , we haven't talked about it much since I kind of stop talking about all real r issues since then and just tried not to pressure her , so I guess that's why I haven't attempted to lay down the OM boundary since but By doing so I left the door open for her to further develop a relationship with this other I guy but at this point isn't it going to end badly anyway what I'm I afraid of divorce ?

Seperation were already living inseperate rooms cut off physically what else can you do to me , I'm about at the end of my rope hard to be a lighthouse for a ship that's sailed even though on occasion she still feeds me breadcrumbs about the future , just to keep me hanging on I suspect until OM works out our until she gets out os school in June (she's a teacher ) so she ll have more time with the kids and it'll be easier to kiss me bye (her house ) anyway I'm growing tired of her cake eating and mind games and losing hope of any chance of reconciliation,
I want to work on he marriage but have accepted it's only to be married to the girl who I'm married not the girl she's become and I don't think is coming back , like most newbies I'm sure I'm on a emotional rollercoaster!

I feel like or marriage is just nostalgia now and I'm living in the past by wanting anything to work out and the future with her is impossible, guess I'm ranting I guess this go where I intended but it's been a crazy day, but that wouldn't be true on the other hand I hate seeing my wife unhappy and in this wayward state, I don't like what we've become and I wish there was something I could do to turn things around but I just don't know what that something is