Do not instigate any conversation unless it relates to your kids. Remember, your W does not want you to, she does not want to hear from you, and any attempt you try and make to "clarify" what you might see as errors in her recollection of your past will be met with fury and push her farther away. Sadly, there is nothing you can do or say at this moment which will do anything but hurt your R. The very best thing you can do is nothing. Leave her alone, give her the space. She is on a journey which does not include you. I know it is impossibly tough and extremely counter intuitive but this is what DBing is about.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16