I completely understand your frustration Heavy. I have been there. This is why detaching is SOOOOOO important to your mental stability and ability to even function. I know what it is like to analyze every single action the WW takes. I know what it is like to see even a glimmer of hope in one of her actions and get my hopes up only to be torn down sometimes that very day. Detachment and patience will be what gets you through this. Knowing this does not make it easier, but somewhere down the road you will look back and understand it a little better when you have truly detached. Just do your best to not try and analyze the good or bad actions on her part or try to find rhyme or reason to them. None of it will make sense and none of it means anything in the long run.

Best of luck to you!


Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16