newpand, I agree with Wet -- Don't do things to make your W notice. Do things because they make sense for you, and your sanity. It can be a slow process, but it will help you.

Wet, thanks for the kind words.

Bob

Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS)
M:14 yrs
T:15 yrs
No children together--3 each from previous marriages
Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14
Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14
Divorce Final: 10/21/15