I guess I'm not sure if showing interest is the right move. One of our issues was that we didn't connect well, so I'm not sure being disinterested is exactly the right move.
However, in her mind right now our entire marriage is negative and bad (ironically, in my mind right now everything was really positive...the truth is obviously somewhere in the middle) so I'm not sure trying to instigate any conversation is doing me any good.
Hi Winhamn,
First, thank you for posting on my thread.
I do not think you should be initiating conversations with her. I have learned the hard way about the distancer /pursuer dynamic. My suggestion is to give her a little space right now.
Please hang in there. I'm sure one of the "veterans" on this board will offer some really good advice. Post often so we can keep up with your situation.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
