Alpha Step At A Time #5

[alpha99]

Thanks Indigo and Ontheup,

I understand that *should* W ever have a change of heart it will be so on her timetable. I understand each sitch is different and I shouldn't try and set out some sort of timescale. Having said that, since we hear about a script so often, and maybe a very general sequence of events that get followed, it is interesting to know what happens with other people in a general sense in terms of time taken to reconcile.

I am very much only browsing the dating site at this point, more as a distraction than anything else, but there are plenty of other women about of course. I do hope that ultimately I have no need to go down that route.

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W called me about 30 minutes ago. To begin with she said she only called to say thank you to me for dropping the kids off on time at MIL's this morning. I accepted the thanks, offered thanks for calling, and was about to say bye and hang up.

W then said something along the lines of 'I have something to ask you, it doesn't matter if you have something planned because it's last minute, but do you want to have the kids on Monday instead of Tuesday?' It turns out W is off work tues, wed, thurs and so wants to rejig our days with kids to suit herself. I said unless there's a special reason to change I'd rather leave things as they are. She was fine, no complaining. In fact, throughout the whole conversation she was very pleasant. I guess that was the real reason for calling. We then talked briefly about the horse racing yesterday, how S6 picked the winning horse for his grandad's bet but he is allowed to keep the winnings. I spoke to S6 briefly on the phone about it, W said his face lit up.

This is what I don't understand, in our limited interactions we are getting along better than we have in months - both being nice, both being polite, being considerate of each other, no arguing. I know there could be many reasons for that from her, both genuine and deceitful - but I find it frustrating all the same. I think I'm going need a whole lot of patience to get through this. Luckily, when I have to be, I can be incredibly patient.