Thanks Toots. We read the book and did all of those exercises back when she first told me how unhappy she was feeling...3+ years ago. for me physical touch was by far #1. Acts of service, QT and words of affirmation were all basically lumped together. acts was just in front of words. Gifts was last by a long shot.
It is sad...Xmas wife bought me a guitar and lessons for a gift. It was so thoughtful and wonderful I cried, I actually cried from a gift because it felt like a loving gesture from her...just goes to show how empty the old love tank was. BTW, gifts, acts & words are her top thee and QT & physical came in pretty far down. Now I don't know how honest she was being with that, but I know she always used to appreciate thoughtful gifts which is what made me so happy with the guitar...in my mind it was a true act if love.
