Thank you so much for these words of wisdom. It's sooo what I needed.
job, you are so right. THANK YOU!
LoisB..I have stepped away from FB. Thank you!
LouR...Sorry to hear about the alopecia. It's tough. Hair is so defining and you don't realize it til it's gone. I miss my workout ponytail and wearing a baseball cap. I know it'll come back but I just miss it. I do have a prescription to go buy a wig and maybe I'll venture into being a blonde ;-)
As it turns out, I know for sure that she is the opposite of who I am as a person. That's what he wants right now. It just pains me for my children. I need to stop running through the what if's. Thanks for that LouR.
My children are scheduled to see the counselor again this week. Now they look forward to it because they have so much emotional stuff going on that I know they need that outlet. I am thinking of going to the counselor too cuz I don't know what to do with all these emotions either.
Today, my children had their weekend with their dad. He picks them up on Sat and Sun just for the day.I don't put a time limit so it's up to him when to pick them up and drop them off. So far Sunday's are the sticky point because of where he wants to go to church and have the OP around and my children not wanting to go to his church nor be around "her".
So today, he took our children out then there was another scheduling conflict with their games so he had his mom split the time. However, at our younger children's games, "OW" showed up with her daughter and her cheerleading squad and dropped off her youngest son with my husband. That was so off putting for my children.But my children don't say anything.
Then, as my H took our children back to his parent's house (where I think he's still living), our oldest child noticed that his truck wasn't there. To which, OW youngest son replied, "it's at my house."
Our two older children mentioned that H now has a tattoo that matches one that OW has.It's on his wrist under his watch. My oldest child called him out on it and said, you have a tattoo? H seemed embarrassed and said that it's a tattoo that fades cuz according to my H, the tattoo artist said that the ink he used is for people who don't want to fully commit to it or are in a temporary relationship. ???? Okkaaayy??!
Then they all went out to eat dinner (including her child) and child kept asking for money to play video games at this restaurant. My MIL and FIL had joined them for dinner and child asked them over and over for money too. H finally gave him money and some to our children too. Our second oldest child asked why did he give into the child's request. H responded that all her (OW) children are spoiled. So my children noticed that he's doing the same thing.
My children came home a little earlier than I expected and my oldest texted my H to ask what time was he picking them up tomorrow? H replied 9am and for all of them to be dressed extra nice for church plus take casual clothes for later. My oldest texted him back ...we don't want to go to OW's oldest son's first communion, if that's what you're planning. Then H text back..then I'll pick y'all up earlier and drop y'all off at 1p so that y'all don't have to go.
My oldest shared all this with me after everything and I asked each of my children if they wanted to go and they all were upset that he was going to take them to this thing with the OW without asking if they wanted to go.. cuz a few wks ago H said he would give them a choice. So much for that. UGH!! These lies are getting annoying.
He's really trying to push for them to all be together with her and her children sooo badly. So this makes me think that he's probably been dating her since last yr around this time. In essence, to him, it's time they should be around his GF. But to my children, they still feel like he left yesterday, so they really don't want to be rushed into accepting his GF. I just listen to my children. I told them that it's ok with me if they are around OW with their dad but if they don't want to be around her that they can tell their dad how they feel. I know H will be upset cuz he is soo tired of waiting for them to feel comfortable. He just thinks that they are taking so long to accept this. He tells them that he loves and misses them very much and wants them to call him anytime. Which, they don't want to.. He really thinks that because he's "happy" that they should be happy. WEIRD!!! Who is he?
Anyway, thanks again for letting me vent and rant. It's so nice to hear affirming words from y'all.
I will continue to pray for my children. I will continue to pray for my H and this OW that truth be revealed and that the scales be removed from their eyes. Praying for myself for wisdom too.:-)
I pray for all of you too. May God touch each one of you with HIS healing touch and love.
