The 2nd day with children has been great too. Yesterday: cooking together, watching TV. D14 is a singer songwriter herself, so we are talking about song-writing, guitars and different guitar tunings from time to time.
I have worked on two things regarding DB on this weekend. 1) In DR you can read the advice to bring up a mental stop sign, whenever you think about your spouse. I have swapped the sign with an annoying buzzer sound. I am a more auditive person.
2) Since I am a nice guy/co-dependent, I came up with some statements, that I am going to read to myself a few times a day. I would really appreciate your thoughts on them. If the grammar or the words should be wrong, just let me know.
- Today I strive for standing up for myself, like a healthy man, without defensiveness, excuses or explanations
- Today I strive for setting healthy boundaries, to protect my self respect, my honour and my dignity
- Today I strive for loving myself as I am, honouring myself and taking care of my needs and my well-being
- Today I strive for making my own hopes, visions and dreams a priority above the hopes, visions and dreams of others
- Today I strive for honest and loving communication with others
- Today I strive for consciously enjoying the good moments of the day and open myself up for the love and approval of others
- Today I strive for accepting, that I have the right to say “Yes”, “No” and “Maybe”
- Today I strive for asking others for their help, if I need them
- Today I strive for making little steps to overcome fear, when it raises its head
- Today I strive for acknowledging my emotions and deal with them in an adult way
- Today I strive for accepting adults as adults, responsible for their own lives. I will not control them, manipulate them or use them to make me feel better
- Today I strive for accepting live as it is and to deal with reality as it is
- Today I strive for choosing risk taking over fear and practice to detach my decision making from the outcome
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
