Whoa. I'm not saying it's a bad sign, but why do you think it's a "good" sign?
Just a few days ago she was talking about wanting a good coparenting relationship. She has another man on her mind and in her soul. She moved out a month ago. Reality check here.
DON'T show up with flowers. Cripes. What message does that send?
If anyone brings flowers it should be her. And a statement about how she messed up. That she's clear about what she wants. That she's willing to do ANYTHING that's reasonable to make it right and earn a second chance.
If she says anything less than that you are making your own monster if you are trying to find "good" in this. You are enabling and strengthening the addicted part of her when you do.
Frankly I'm not even sure you should go. Why should you? What is the purpose of the dinner? Have you asked her? Did she tell you?
Give us the context here. If there wasn't any I would treat is as cake eating and a temperature check and I would use it as an opportunity to enforce some boundaries and GAL.
PS- If she didn't volunteer any info I'd be careful how you ask so you don't sound needy or hopeful. Like "Given the circumstances I don't think that's appropriate. Is there something we need to discuss?"
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
