I have those thoughts too Barb! Today, after church she asked me to take photos with her. So I hung around after her ladies chorus practice and suggested we go out for lunch. It was a nice day and I had nothing to do. She didn't respond but babbled on about other things. A friend was going to drive us to her place and drop me at a bus stop. I suggested again that we grab something to eat at the plaza near her place...again, no response. So we dropped her and I went to my stop. When I got home I found she'd texted me four times about plans for next week. Agnes has invited AM and I over for dinner after church and our singing engagement at a nursing home. I texted her "I'm confused. I asked you twice to grab lunch together and you ignored me. I don't understand this behaviour. Please explain. I'm feeling rather hurt and embarrassed right now." She responded right away. "OMG, you were really asking me?" I said "Of course I was!" she said "I thought you were being funny!" I said "why would that be funny?" She said "I'm so sorry". I said "Next time you can ask me 'cuz so I don't have to feel stupid anymore! Btw, I need to know if you have any issues with me that need to be talked about? I'm dead serious." She replied "Nope, I'm OK." So, that's that. As for wanting a relationship...I don't know and have never said that is what I want. I just want to get to know her to decide whether I do or don't. Even friends have lunch together! I very much enjoy talking and texting with her and we have fun when we're together in groups but I don't know about how it would be to know each other on a different level. So, I'm just backing off and leaving it as is. I'm also quite pleased that I confronted her behaviour rather than just passively lying back and avoiding her. Small step forward lol.
