Part 18 - Creeping onward

[edz]

Hi Cherry

Oh believe me its not easy to avoid it, you may have noticed some of us have nicknamed our internal voices that want to do things now or correct things Mr / Ms / Mrs Fixit.

My Mr Fixit rages at times that I should call / write / email but over time I've built a small creche for him and filled it with toys to keep him quiet

Its part of detaching, in no way does it mean I dont want w back but I aknowledge she needs to come back because she wants to and that I need to work on myself and her not throwing herself into reconciliation or going away (which would have had me in all sorts of a pickle 6 months ago) with mil/fil and son doesnt equate to never wanting to talk again.

Its not easy, it does come with time. Hang on in there Cherry from what I've read you're doing very well

[Cherry]

I think my detaching is getting better but there is times that voice just breaks free and I say something.. Ugh. Training myself not to message in the day- I actually noticed he then messaged me.

[edz]

Yes its very very difficult as all you want to do is talk it through and hope they will talk back. Its hard and counter-intuitive. If you look back at my threads its been a difficult thing for me to get the hang of and I sometimes fall down on it or go a little too far in replies or whats said.

Theres no hard rule though, its down to go with whats working without pursuing or pushing them further away by making them feeling suffocated.

Not easy especially at first, first 2 months in for me I was still very much as I was in that first post I made and only really opening up in counselling, only really the last couple of months Ive started to feel like me again but then I'd been in a horrible place in myself for quite a few years pre bd.

You're doing well Cherry focus on you and where you want to be, deal with H warmly and friendly and go from there

[Vanilla]

Edz

Practising the castle and picnic strategy.

Remember the squirrel too?

Pretty cool!

I would like to ask Fixit a question. I went to the electrical shop you mentioned and bought a 10tr wifi server. I have hundreds of CDs and DVDs which I will need to store but first I need to rip the CDs and save the films. The first I know how to do, but is there any resource I can use to do the same with my favourite DVDs. I own them so I just want to convert the format not steal anything. Is that possible Edz?

Any where I can learn about it? If this is against rules to say please don't.

[edz]

Hi all

V I suggest you google vortexbox and see if your nas is one of the ones it works with makes everything much easier. As to illegal its a grey area its not illegal or unlawful to format shift but in some areas (the us) the DMCA makes it unlawful to break encryption which renders it all moot.

Mods if there are any issues feel free to amend this post but v I'd also suggest you look at makemkv which is free or look for articles on the lifehacker site on ripping

[edz]

Separate post in case the mods feel they need to amend the above

Not long in after being out since 9

After a shower and other ablutions went and fed wft cleaned her litter etc then off to Southampton IKEA. Now bearing in mind I have a 2000 vw golf mkiv I got the following back to the house

2 60x120 desk tops
8 legs for the desks
1 full size wardrobe
1 storage unit (147x77cm)
4 storage bins
4 inserts for the storage unit
1 Leonardo folio trytych
1 laundry basket
A pizza cutter
A washing up brush

Oh

And a washing up brush for w this is an inside joke as she gets one every time she goes. This stuff was *heavy* very glad I've been doing some self lifting every morning!

As to w she's in deepest Devon where phone signals and WiFi are afraid to travel. She did text me to know they got there ok but even that didn't get here till 10 last night, much like light on the disk world! She's pinged me a couple of messages says no WiFi or 3g she's a little shakey s is apparently unplugged and in withdrawal

So broke the diet a little today to have a cheese cheeeeeese sandwich with piccalilli and orange juice as I was a little shakey after lugging that lot in and out of the car!

Off in a bit to do w a favour and drop off a next parcel for return (next is 2 minutes from me) and then I will be delving into the delights of moving furniture and building Swedish flat pack

Will catch up with you all later

[Cadet]

Hi all

V I suggest you google vortexbox and see if your nas is one of the ones it works with makes everything much easier. As to illegal its a grey area its not illegal or unlawful to format shift but in some areas (the us) the DMCA makes it unlawful to break encryption which renders it all moot.

Mods if there are any issues feel free to amend this post but v I'd also suggest you look at makemkv which is free or look for articles on the lifehacker site on ripping

I fail to see anything that violates the TOS/Board Rules,

You agree to not post any messages that are defamatory, harassing, abusive, hateful, threatening, or otherwise offensive.
Your posts must be polite and considerate.
Do not post names, addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, or any confidential or private contact information.
You agree not to post any copyrighted material, photos, videos, book references, or links to other sites.

Enlighten me?

[edz]

Hi cadet

I'm aware the board is registered in the us some boards play it very safe in the DMCA safe harbour provisions that they dont allow any discussion, linking or hinting to any way to backup or format shift music or movies you have legitimately bought.

In the uk and most countries discussion is perfectly ok but some boards as i say play it safe and I always respect the owners and those who run the environment

[Sotto]

Edz, sounds like a busy one. I imagine you surrounded by cardboard and trying to use those IKEA instructions which just have diagrams and no text. You may be swearing as I write....

What's the project then? Are you setting up a work area at home?

Sounds like somehow it all came together for the holiday then. Poor S - no electronic devices! SS used to get 'grounded' from E devices occasionally, and I always noticed he seemed a lot happier without them. Enjoyed reading his books, playing with Lego and so on. It's no bad thing.

How long are they away for Edz, and do you have any other nice plans for the weekend??

T

[edz]

Hi toots

You weren't far off. The project hmmm...do you remember I said I had lots of little ideas I wanted to try well some of that and also I've realised I was putting myself in a wait and see mode and making do a lot. Clothes all hanging off the back of a door are fine in college but not at my age, w said to me a while back I should get one of those canvas wardrobes!. Now while I know they are actually good at letting your clothes breathe and no offense to anyone with one but I want a proper (well as proper as MDF gets) one so got one from IKEA its in a very very heavy big flat pack box in the lounge I can lift it just but not up the stairs (it weighs about 180 lbs) so I'll open it tomorrow and build it in the bedroom ditto with a nice cube storage unit I got for the office to replace an overloaded billy bookcase which will move to the hall.

Today apart from travelling there and back and reassembling the car I took my office apart shut down my servers and music systems and decabled it then I pulled apart all the scrappy bits of furniture (and in some cases bits of wood) and built the two new desks, I also emptied all the bits I had still in scrappy cardboard boxes after moving that had been piled against the wall, I was quite brutal and threw a lot the rest went into some nice front accessible storage boxes I got and when everything was back up I stored them under the server desks looks so much better and these are the cheapy IKEA desks!

So my back yard has a load of stuff to go to the tip. I now have a very nice framed triptych of Leonardo drawings which will need some fixings but will go up. So tomorrow have the media cube unit (kallax 77 x 147) and thee wardrobe to build and if there's time a trip to the tip.

It's more making the house my home and not a waiting room if that makes sense. W when I mentioned some bits seems to be suprised I'd want to be at home, well what are my options then w? So off I went. Also got some little bits got a laundry bag to encourage s to put his washing in there (it will sit outside his room) and I just used my new pizza cutter for dinner lol.

Yes I think fil pushed mil into going im sorry can't talk about fil and why he's not stressed let's say there's medication I could have had involved and leave it at that, s will be fine he'll go native on rope swings and have fun.

Well I'm having a very spicy pizza for dinner along with a very potent viognier w got me for feeding wft and leading into a chill out.

Tomorrow will be the usual start, off to feed wft then it will be media unit build and wardrobe build then I'll see what time is left and if I can get to the tip to get rid of this scrappy stuff and if there's any time left in the day maybe a walk on the beach before I feed wft again and make dinner.

What you up to toots?

Haven't really thought about w, missed her and s especially coming back from IKEA as the route is the way I first followed her back to our first flat but nothing maudling. Just been getting on