Yeah, I think a good piece of how I've changed about my view of the sitch and WW is from reading your thread. I've used some of the things you've done to help me address the next step in my sitch. Especially in terms of realizing that I don't want to be with this person if this is who she is.
Gan,
Thanks for checking in. I'll spare you a ton of reading. Here's cliff notes p. (Things with the A are based on believing WW)
MCS and just about everyone else saw our M as just fine, no fighting, no arguments, no issues. At some point WW started to have issues that she didn't share (PPD? Or maybe just 'unsettled', IDK) than about 2years ago started online chat stuff, then start EA with co-worker which became a (slight?) PA. No one knew any of this, but the A took hold. Something happened to push WW to take the A to the next level, guessing she was choosing OM over the M. Prior to BD, WW got hotel room and supposedly OM didn't show up and wanted to call the A off. I think then WW was trying anything to get OM to commit and leave his GF. It seems he led her on, IDK. Well, WW drops BD and then decides to leave right away, leaving kids with MCS. Since A is still secret, she won't talk to anyone about anything that happened. Won't communicate directly with me. She continues to try and get OM to leave his GF, she buys a house 2 months after BD far away from kids school, but right around corner from him. Cheese less tunnel, there was still something going on, but at this point I think A is over or WW knows it's not going to work out, money has run out for WW, she's pushed all her friends away, etc. so now she's just angry at MCS, the world or both.
Meanwhile, MCS struggles with not trying to 'help' WW. MCS is a flopping fish, sporadically enforcing boundaries, but also trying to R, and also trying to fix it for the kids sake. However, I'm getting to the point that I realize that these are WW's choices and as much as she tries, I'm not the person to 'fix' the bad choices she's making.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
