Pyrite: Eye of the storm?

[Cherry]

Zeus, I saw your post on my thread and your reference to your model. I think that is a great analogy. And it does really help. And after a while- you do become complacent, love and unconditional support is just expected in a m. When I opened my eyes to this, it became clearer what I needed to do.

Pyrite, we all have these feelings in the early days. For someone who has depression you are doing great. I've got post natal depression so it hit me like my world ended. After a week or so of wallowing- I went to my Drs office and arrange to see an IC and go on antidepressants. I read DB and DR and worked out what I needed to do. My h is in an EA- not gonna lie I get angry. Sometimes I resent him for what he has done to me and that I'm left holding baby. All this does is hurt me. The beauty of DB-ing is that we do a lot of self growth. We work on us for a change because while they're in their little bubble- words mean nothing to them. It is satisfying when you start to feel the changes in yourself and start to love yourself that bit more. Even more so when your roles seem to reverse and they see you happy. My h actually asked me if this situation was bothering me anymore.
You need to become the best you you can be. And we will be happy with or without them. It's hard to believe, I struggle myself at times.