That's what they want today. Their feelings have changed before from committed to the M to not. Who knows if they change back? The point is that if we do things differently then they might. And if not, we've done what we can.
As for the idea that an affair is a deal breaker- maybe it is. Maybe our behavior was already a deal breaker for them too.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15