You're asking US what to tell your WW to make HER think a certain way. Are you just a conduit between us and her? Where are YOU in this? You need to get to a place where you have a strong sense of what you want to do, ideas that you want to test with outsiders. And to a place where what YOU think about your actions matter much more than what SHE thinks. That's substance. That's something love can latch onto.
Erratum: "You will do things that will upset her in the SHORT run." In the long run, you're more likely to impress her with your strong attitude. Don't mind her immediate reactions so much.
It probably seems like I am asking what to do in every situation. That is not the case. I know the kind of person I am, and who I want to be. My concern is in how best to carry out those things. Especially the communication. This is all brand new to me. No eggageration: I never saw this coming. I'm still learning how to act in this surreal landscape. I thank everyone for their insight and advice. This forum has been so very helpful to me, and I mean that.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
