She filed for divorce right? She had you served with papers right? She refused to negotiate right?
Then don't feel guilty about hiring a lawyer to protect yourself. Hiring a lawyer is not being vindictive. You are protecting your self under the law.
She is the one who chose to unilaterlally blow up your marriage and family. You also don't have to come across as needy or wimpy.
Now that you have your lawyer, all communication about the Divorce goes through him/her. You are out of the emotional process? That's why the lawyers get the big bucks. Any other communication you may have with her should be cordial, polite and brief. I am having a hard time of that but am working on it.
She is legally bound to respond to your lawyer following her divorce petition, that is standard operating procedure. If her AP is loaded, he will not mind giving her some money for the lawyer fee's right?
Do you communicate with her at all now?
We have not communicated at all in the last 5 days. Prior to that we had limited informational texts but nothing in depth. I don't want to seem petty or vindictive, even though I had every right to do this. Especially after her behaviors to date.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
