I'm sorry that you are here -- but I have to echo what Cadet says about depression and blaming you. Research angry depressed spouses and see if you might identify with what's going on.

My H turned nuclear meltdown angry seemingly overnight and was angry for months and it was ALL MY FAULT (according to him). Told me he had checked out of the marriage, that I controlled him, that he would "never trust his heart to me again", ILYBINILWY, the whole nine yards. All while screaming this at me. For two months straight.

Seven months later? He's finally seeking help for serious depression. Admitted that it wasn't all my fault, and that alot of what he said when he left wasn't true.

Take a step back, breathe, take care of yourself and use this time to reflect.

M:32,H 32
T:10, M5
BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger
H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15
Served D Papers: 10/15
Divorced: 11/15