I was always so worried about what W was thinking or what she might do. Will she leave me if I say no to this, will she leave me if I want to do this.
You've just described the majority of the newcomer LBH's. It's just my opinion, but I really believe that is one reason these threads have a familiar tone. To me, so many of the LBS's seem to be cut from the same thread. The men are terrified of upsetting the W, and take all kind of cr@p from her, then when she becomes wayward, they are scared to death she will leave.
Do you want to know what my grown D said to me the day she revealed her knowledge of my A? "Mom, you know you would have never put up with Dad treating you the way you've treated him". Guess what? That was the truth!
I wished the guys here could understand that they cannot take a weak, soft, fearful approach when dealing with a strong WW.
I appreciate your honesty and your willingness to share with us, Joe.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
