Please give me guidance on communication and doing the right thing in my sitch.
First of all DB101 - PATIENCE
Originally Posted By: Kramer
Originally Posted By: labug
I read your response to me on our previous thread. The post I read about the negotiation aspect didn't clearly state that she refused to negotiate.
Be careful about mindreading.
Be who you want to be through this.
Do you know who that is?
That's your ticket off the roller coaster and to the high road.
I am confused by your post. What mindreading? I asked her to negotiate with me, and she never responded. Should I have contacted her a second or third time with the same message? I am so confused about communication in general. Such a fine line between pursuing, aloofness, and healthy detachment.
I want to be the person with morals, compassion, dedication, and honesty. I do not want to be vindictive, but also need to protect myself in the legal process. I do not want to cut off all communication, but do not want to come across as needy or wimpy.
Can you help me with that?
I think that the less communication you have the better, however (and I am not LABUG)she felt that since she did not respond you were interpreting that as non-negotiation
Understand that your wife is in as much turmoil as you right now, so she may not be thinking clearly either. So maybe she did not have time or is too much in a fog to do anything.
There are no hard and fast rules about this, do what YOU feel is right. What YOU can live with.
The changes we make are for us, the boundaries we have are to protect us. Everything we do is so we can be the best that we can be.
