We are in D process, she has moved out, she is with OW as often as she can be, and yet I am supposed to be polite and cordial, don't avoid her, but don't seek her out.
Now when she calls, I am more pleasant, not up to making chit chat yet. I talk her time with the kids - "I know you are going to have a good time, have fun" etc..
I have no reaction from her re: legal situation. She won't respond to the l letters. It appears we will go to court to resolve the financial issue.
I have read that my WW will have to destroy this realtionship in order for her to get to the state she wants to be in (whatever that is). So I just protect myself legally and let the rest just roll off my back. I am not friends with her and can't do family things with her right now, it's best that we just see each other as infrequently as possible. It makes it less painful for me as I continue to work on emotional detachment.
Wow - I think I am really getting the idea behind this DB. It is about detaching, dropping the rope, and not letting her influence or control or even to get me to react to her decisions.
It is another tough concept to accept that divorce is ineveitable but may not be the end of our relationship. Hmmm.... How that will play out remains to be seen. Do I even want someone back who has treated my with such disrespect and lied to and betrayed me over and over again.... I guess that boils down to self respect. That is something I am building up and I am realizing that it is there. People treat me how I allow them to treat me, period.
GAL activities for the weekend - major yard work, major house cleaning, major laundry. I need to put some fun in there too. I will work on that.
