"So our task is to not enable them to destroy our portion of the relationship.
For us not to follow them down cheeseless tunnels.
For us to control our 50%, and not let them destroy us!"

Thanks Cadet - that's helped me today. It's a useful aide memoir for us to think about what we are doing, why, and also what we shouldn't be doing!

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus