Another piece of the puzzle just clicks into place today. My husband sought treatment in November for and Oxycodone habit. He had no prescription and was buying them from people. I thought he was doing good after treatment but now I realize that he just got better at hiding it. He got his own cell phone 3/2/2015 cause he didn't want me to be able to see who he called, texted, etc. but I still had all the records from before and I got curious. Since we both have iPhones I went through his backups using this program. I have a text between him and this 300 lb 50+ year old lady who apparently is his dealer. Text says: "Tweaked back unloading this stove from truck. Need pills. Pay any price."... That was 2/28.
Then Bomb Drop on 4/2/2015. Of course since he has his own cell phone now, I can't tell if he is still doing this and I can't get to any of his backups cause he created his own apple account. And in honesty, I think the 2/28 text is it for me. I can't live like this and I can't let my kids live like this either.
I am GALing, but I was still hoping for reconciliation deep down. How am I supposed to recommit to a marriage when he is having an affair with drugs. The thing is, I know he has a slipped disk. An MRI in December confirmed this. So why isn't he seeking proper treatment: chiropractor, physical therapy, etc... versus buying pills he has no prescription for.
And worse, now that I realize he is using again so much more of his behavior makes sense. Like... BD 4/2/15 we meet 4/5/15 to discuss split of assets in marriage. He was complaining how much his back hurt and that he was headed back to the lake house to sit on the heating pad for the rest of the afternoon but instead he went and tore out an entire bathroom: vanity, flooring, wallpaper, everything... You are in pain but you felt good enough to demolish an entire bathroom. AND he is planning on selling that house so how are you supposed to sell it with a bathroom missing? I am assuming, but my instinct tells me that I am not far off, that he popped a few pills got to feeling good then had some excess energy he had to burn off so he thought why not, I'll remodel the bathroom. And I'm sure each time he does this that he is just making the disk issue worse.
Frustrated... I want to save my marriage but how do you compete with addiction. I don't think you can. An addiction is worse then a mistress because they don't see it as cheating on your wife and family. Between finding out about the continued drug usage, the $16,500 he blew in stock market last year, the arguing... I just don't want to hang on anymore and I think that has made it so much easier for me to GAL.
