I agree with Cadet. It does take a series events and interactions - each of which you learn something from - and the passage of time - and GAL. At this point I find my level of detachment varies depending on what's going on in my life, contact with H and so on.

It's a journey and not a destination in a way....

I think you've doing well anyway Burger. I don't think I've posted much on your sitch, but I do read and I think you seem to be taking a level-headed approach.

Keep up the good work....you've got this :-)

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus