Oh believe me its not easy to avoid it, you may have noticed some of us have nicknamed our internal voices that want to do things now or correct things Mr / Ms / Mrs Fixit.
My Mr Fixit rages at times that I should call / write / email but over time I've built a small creche for him and filled it with toys to keep him quiet
Its part of detaching, in no way does it mean I dont want w back but I aknowledge she needs to come back because she wants to and that I need to work on myself and her not throwing herself into reconciliation or going away (which would have had me in all sorts of a pickle 6 months ago) with mil/fil and son doesnt equate to never wanting to talk again.
Its not easy, it does come with time. Hang on in there Cherry from what I've read you're doing very well
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
