Spoke with H again, I have been careful not to mention our relationship, keeping talk focused on kids, facts and his job search process. I deviated and asked him if he was having a good time. He responded 'let's talk about it when I get home'. I don't think he is interested in sorting things out with me, as he still sounds very down & miserable. Not enjoying his time away, but I could be wrong. I was surprised that me even inquiring about his happiness was an emotional bridge too close for him.

I would love for him to find his happiness and personal passions again, but this is his journey. I'm no longer facilitating.

I do wonder if his MLC is coming thru in his interviews. I think once he gets his head together, he will get a job.


H: 48 Me: 47
Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs
2 teen-Ds and S
H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014)
D-Bomb: 2/2015
H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015
I filed: 7/2015