I'm still trying to do the right thing regarding communication. I have been dark for the last few months other than legal issues. I have now hired a lawyer, and no communication at all this who'll week, from her or me. I tried to get her to mediate with me without lawyers, but she would not, so I hired a lawyer.

Since legal representation creates an adversarial relationship with her, how do I communicate and remained detached, but not aloof or spiteful? I do not want to close any doors, but do not want to be walked over either.

Please help me formulate a game plan.

Me M51
WW F46
T 17 yrs
M 16 yrs
9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17
8 grandchildren
ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14
I discover PA 12/31/14
She files D: 1/9/15
She moves out 3/2/15
D papers served 3/18/15