Pilot-You are right, it seems so unfathomable that it takes people months or longer to figure out what they want.

Zues-As part of our separation plan we agreed not to date. While I don't have any proof that there is an OW, I believe that there is. I saw a picture on FB of him and a girl I have suspected something is going on with earlier this week. I confronted him but he swears that they are just friends. I really don't believe him. The problem is I'm not so sure he is confused. I think he wants a divorce (pretty much told me so tonight) but hasn't had the courage to tell me because he doesn't want to be the bad guy. I think he was just waiting for me to get tired of waiting for him so he can blame it all on me.

Me:36 H: 29
T: 4 years
M: 2 years
No kids
In-house sep 10/4/14
H moved out 1/2/15
Talk of D 4/9/15

"She's standing on a line between giving up and seeing how much more she can take" John Mayer