Help dropping the rope

[Cherry]

Zephyr it's tough it really is, I'm like you worrying that if I'm too nice it's persuing or if I'm too distant he will go look for it elsewhere. He actually came back after I hadn't seen him a couple days and was more like himself- asking me to hang with him, watch movies, order in etc. then he flips back.
My way I've been dealing with things that he seemed to respond to is act confident ( I stick on happy music while I make food/ do chores/ sort baby etc). I sing, I dance (like the old ME). And this was a thing he commented on what was making him question his original decision to d me. He says he's watching me just getting on with things.
This is a bit of a 180 for me. So you do whatever the heck you need to do to make YOU feel good. Your a dad, a h, but what makes you you? What do you enjoy? What will make you happy. Whatever your answer to that is- go do it. Take your trip to Ireland - go to your concert. She probably will be baffled as to what you're doing but she will also be fascinated as to who this exciting new guy is. And if you keep your actions consistent- she will start to believe you are genuine.
And it is a good feeling when you realise you've switched rolls and now you are the confident one and SHE is the one asking you where you are going etc?

Chin up, you are doing great!!