Alpha One, Alpha All #

[alpha99]

Good job!

Now how are you doing on the "working on you" list?

Making progress on viewing your wife differently? (Not just keeping your mouth shut but actually NOT "keeping score" or judging her parenting)

Just remember you won't "nice her back" either so don't play doormat when it comes to favors she asks of you.

Hi Twinmom,

I think I'm doing well. Upon picking the kids up today D5 had felt tip pen on her hands and a blocked up nose. I noticed both, only mentioned the pen to W in case she hadn't realised it was there, and left without thinking much about it at all really. There's work to do still of course but I am learning to let the small stuff go and not be so judgmental. I think I'm loosening up parent wise. I have always been very protective of the kids. Seeing the kids respond well to having a little more freedom (both in MIL's house and out and about) has led me to giving them a little more freedom. I guess I have my W to thank for that.

I'm aware I won't nice her back. My 'agreement' is a means of avoiding debate and argument. I won't go along with anything I don't agree with in the normal sense - only validate her thoughts to avoid an argument. She hasn't really asked for any favours. Well, a lift when I was going to town anyway. *More below.