Well Cath...ya know...it's perfectly alright for a little bird (YOU) to call your HUSBANDS doctor and tell him in CONFIDENCE that you are concerned about you husband's alcohol abuse and the effect it's having on his health and life in general...the doctor will appreciate the info...especially IF your H doesn't 'tell all' when he goes to see him.
And yes..the doctor after running tests will wonder if any of his health issues ARE in fact alcohol related. Not to mention that alcohol will show up in his urine so if they look for that (BAC = blood alcohol content)they'll know anyway.
Oh HE (your H) likes you plenty...HE just can't believe YOU could ever really like HIM. T2
That's great you're making plans for yourself this week. I'm glad it has hit you that this is all about him and not about you. You didn't do anything wrong, it's just your h's childhood demons have come front and center to haunt him. I forgot to mention also, many mlcers wind up with some type of illness when they are in mlc, many with stomach ailments. My h had stomach problems and an infection on his leg when he first left. Their immune systems are weak. Your h's may very well be due to drinking or the stresses of what he is going through right now.
At least one thing is going on GREAT in my life. I got a new job . I can play golf free 2x a week and one of my 'job descriptions' is to be in charge of the fitness center. I'm so happy and so scared too. I wanted to tell someone here and there's nobody better than you to tell it to than you guys on these boards.
I got my ticket for Vegas today in the mail. I can't wait to get the he!! out of dodge for a few weeks.
I'm sorry I hijacked your thread. Guess what - People still get hired in their 50's. Go Class of '65
Hugs,
Mary
"God, help me keep my head up, my heart open, and know I'll always be guided along the path."
About a year ago, before this all started, H was told he might have bone cancer...his bones and joints ached, ended up being rheumotoid arthritis, now has stomach problems. I did mention to H awhile back that it might be stress, too. H doesn't take his medicine for arthritis every day as he's not supposed to drink when he takes it.
We had a very nice evening last night. We cooked out on the grill. H, me and S cleaned up after we ate. S4 is so cute when he helps clear things, he's just growin up soo fast.
After we cleaned up S and I went to our lower level, I vacuumed while S played basketball. H joined us, wanted to be sure I knew the combo to gun safe. Put all his elk horns next to the safe. The lower level of our house has, oh let's see six deer mounts, one bear skin rug, various mounted fish, a stuff owl, a badger rug, it's a hunting theme. There's also a TV and a bedroom which is decorated in outdoors. I did the bedroom over last summer. A bar, a refrigerator, a stove and sink. Yes someone could live down there. The previous owner did rent it out.
H was teaching S4 to shoot baskets the proper way, S has a b-ball hoop down stairs. Then H was having S do slam dunks, it was fun to watch. S is going to be athletic. H is a very good teacher, also While H was grilling, he was playing baseball with S. We threw a ball around for awhile and then watched Las Vegas.
I am caught up with your sitch now. You have been getting a lot of good advice here. Especially with your H and all his issues (which he has a lot of). I am glad that you had a nice evening and just did normal family things together. Maybe, a lot more of those will make your H think really hard about his life and what he wants. I see that your basement is pretty much your H's area now with all the "manly" decor all over.
It is good that you did not even grill him where he was for five hours. If your gut feeling told you he was with OW, then it is true. Really, you can't control him anyway. As long as you are doing things that make Cathy happy, then you will be ok. You have the Lord behind you, infront of you and beside you. So, never fear. Glad your Faith is what is keeping you sane throughout all this mess. Enjoy your day today.
Hmmm...it's a year ago that H was sneaking around seeing OW, so it's bugg'n me right now that maybe he was at her place Sunday. I don't know why it's overwhelming me right now, but it is.
Cathy, Drop the rope! I can tell you that lately, sometimes my "gut feeling" has not always been right! Sometimes what we think is a gut feeling is nothing but our hearts speaking!
So what if he was with OW, HE IS HOME WITH YOU! And to me this is a big step. Concentrate on more important things, OW is fading into the distance! She is only there for a temporary fix, usually while you H is drunk and not sobber, HINT! She was only a temporary fix, a fantasy, a toy; those things never last and she should have known better! Hold your head up high, your H is where he wants to be. you need lots of patience(you have it in you) and time to heal. All good things come to those who wait!
Thanks Deb..I was hoping someone would whack me or rip the rope from my hands..ouch rope burns..rope dropped. The feeling is fading. You are correct, my gut isn't always right anymore. Old thought patterns, I go on automatic sometimes and need to talk back to them patterns!!!
Besides H was being a little RAAAANDY!!! last night...hasn't been like that for awhile. H does things when S is occupied, so while S was in the bathroom H was messing around with me ...
One time when we were in bed H was messing with me and S heard me say "don't (which means yes BTW)" and S says from his room "Dad what are you doing to Mom!"
Quote: One time when we were in bed H was messing with me and S heard me say "don't (which means yes BTW)" and S says from his room "Dad what are you doing to Mom!"
This gave me the smile I needed for the day. I just love your little fellow!
Thank you so much for your kind words on my thread yesterday. I needed them.
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