That our wives have left us for another? That they have lied shamelessly to us and betrayed us? That they have destroyed their families? That they have caused so much pain that we want to die?
My therapist said to watch out for "potholes". Potholes are those things that we recognize will cause us pain, we fall in the hole, get hurt, are scared and try to crawl out of. She said to see the potholes for what they are, recognize them, and walk around them. It will save a whole lot of pain, time and energy if we fall into them again and again and again.
So when I start to feel down or bad about my crummy situation, I have to force myelf to do something or think of something else. Doing something usually means fixing something around the house, throwing out clothes my kids have outgrown, etc... The trick is to do something to get your mind off the pain. I guess this also means GAL.
Can you do that Kramer?
That is what I am trying to do, I am tired of feeling like a victim. I am a survivor now. You are too.
