Sounding good Edz. And I think it is a good step that W has asked you to feed the cat, knowing MIL may object.....Catgate. It will be interesting to see if MIL asks and how W responds. I wouldn't ask, but hopefully she will share.
Have a good day Yogaman!
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Im just hoping they take pity on me, I'm 6'4 and shoulder to shoulder 19" Im not exactly built for flexibility even at goal weight!
Well took a look in the mirror this morning and thought, nope, cant leave the hair like that so manoeuvred my day about and walked up to the barbers (completely forgetting its half term) anyway hair back to where it should be now (again, I have ears!) nicely clippered at the sides although "a little product" seems to have been misheard as "hi i'd like a strange david tennant style uplift please" so a shower and hair wash will be happening after work.
Catgate - lol - thanks Toots Yes, as I said I just like she trusts me. She said her mum will be convinced I'll start riffling through her drawers (chance would be a....err moving on) said well you know may try on a few things see how they look, got a laugh back (see above 6'4 etc, wife is 5'6 ish). MIL is so tied up in herself and the move that Im not sure she'll ask I do wonder will wife cover or just tackle it but, as Ive said, thats her battle to wage. If we did get back together it would make this look like nothing so maybe she would to judge the mood, don't know, suppose we'll see one way or another.
I do know its a cracking afternoon weatherwise, sunny but not too hot. Shame Im now stuck at the desk again for 2 1/2 hours!
Cheers all
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Yoga instructor is late but we can go in said hello to a few people mostly mid 40s women 2 or 3 men. 5 minutes go by. Instructor has gone home sick
Luckily had my swimming gear so had 40 lengths in the pool. Been refunded for this week we'll try again next week.
Anyway, on the way took the next batch of big man clothes to the donation bin, have nothing over a couple of xl t shirts one pair of big big jeans (so when I reach goal I can compare) and a lot of drawer space now or at least fewer jammed drawers!
Also dumped a big leather jacket I've carted about since 1998 and that had a badly ripped lining, broken zip and ripped stitching that went in the bin as its beyond repair and I have a new one.
So spicy pork for dinner with the last of that strawberry flan and chilling out after a busy day. Peeved about the yoga but will be there again next week!
Last edited by edz; 04/08/1507:37 PM.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
That's too bad, Edz. I reckon some of the guys in my class who are the BEST at yoga are upwards of 6". Besides, yoga is just about being present in your own body. You don't need to be a contortionist to do it. Everyone has things they can and can't do. I still find downward dog pretty challenging, but can do crow pretty easily!
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
Still sunny if a little heat hazy down here but getting warmer (admittedly I just did my exercises and had a hot shower but....)
First thing noticed a fb post from w at 5am saying she was irritated and couldn't sleep, too much going on in her head, a few of her friends had posted but I didn't reply on her timeline. Dropped her a text just saying hope she was ok and confirming the time for s's tutor appointment this afternoon left it at that then got on with the morning regime.
About 10 w calls my mobile and tells me actually she's coming here this afternoon now if that's ok with me (this means doubling back on ourselves) as mil will still be at the flat, she (mil) is in a complete meltdown as the house sale hasn't exchanged and they haven't moved and 100 other things, w was concerned today wasn't the best day for me to arrive at the flat (she clearly hasn't discussed going with me to the maths tutor or Catgate(tm) ). I dont wish bad luck on MIL or really have any feelings for her now (moved well beyond it) but I will say I really don't care as long as w & s aren't impacted.
Even w said she will tackle her mother on her business being her business but not today as she's worried about the stress mil is under (fil is full steam ahead but for various reasons I wont go into here isnt joining in the concern). I find it - difficult - to believe that's something w will do given 16 years of experience but anyway simply said how she relates to and deals with her mum is entirely up to her, personally I have no issues in whatever MIL says to me but I dont want to cause w any stress and there's no issue with w&s coming here ever while we are in our current position.
Sounds to me like mil is in a situation she can't control and is angry and dumping stress on w. W said she's very worried how mil will take it if the sale falls through (due to complete monday) I've said that in various sales we had it can be down to solicitors not communicating and everything is ok and there's no evidence of anything being wrong but really its down to fil/mil and she shouldn't worry about them.
Of course they are all due to go away tomorrow so w isn't sure if that's happening, she said she doesn't really care. All sounds like w is feeling it from every angle bar me right now (although I know she feels implied pressure from s & i even when im not in contact but theres nothing I can do there, that's in her mind), she knows she can show up here if she wants to and flop in a corner she may or may not and I wont push it but at least she knows she can.
Anyway, I'm not obsessing over it - I cant influence anything in that area and w/mil/fil are all grown ups.
So maths tutor this afternoon and then the current plan is swimming with s after work (time booked off for the tutor and no he's not coming swimming - that I know of anyway :O) I'm not expecting time with w outside of the tutor visit and haven't made any invitations, we'll see what she chooses to do. Either way is fine.
Home made burgers for dinner tonight, have some nice steak mince in. Will put chilli flakes and seasonings in mine not in s's (he's very taken aback by strong flavours).
Not sure whats changed but while I was feeling a little lonely last thing last night and this morning and do get the occasional "will be alone forever" moment, right now feeling happy and fine. Maybe its the weather, mmm, maybe I need to emigrate!
Catch you later guys.
Edz
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Yes, as I said I just like she trusts me. She said her mum will be convinced I'll start riffling through her drawers (chance would be a....err moving on) said well you know may try on a few things see how they look, got a laugh back (see above 6'4 etc, wife is 5'6 ish). MIL is so tied up in herself and the move that Im not sure she'll ask I do wonder will wife cover or just tackle it but, as Ive said, thats her battle to wage. If we did get back together it would make this look like nothing so maybe she would to judge the mood, don't know, suppose we'll see one way or another.
