Survived the rollercoster by getting off it

[Mozza]

Sorry Mozza, I missed your comment. Give me your male opinion

Haha! Well, I'm quite the dating specialist around here now that I'm on the market and I've read the book. My instant diagnosis on your fireman is that he's clueless about dating! He's a really Nice Guy very afraid to show his desire and be rejected. I'm not just talking about sex, but his general desire to be with you. He goes out of his way to take things veeeery slowly, especially out of respect for you. It's fine in general, but I wonder if he uses it as an excuse to justify his extreme carefulness. Interesting that he chose a career where people will very clearly and loudly request him when they need him, no ambiguity.

What he seems to miss is that the role of men in flirting is to move things along and the role of the women is to send the signals of whether they are willing to go to the next step. He doesn't lead all that much, as this mirroring problem shows. That being said, don't forget that your role is to show him that the path is cleared for the next step, whatever that is at this stage.

By the way, I think you should totally go for him. I'm telling you all this to explain why he might be clumsy in his interactions with you. If anything, he doesn't sound like a player at all. Just be understanding with the poor chap who's in an unfamiliar environment. And avoid your friends who over-read in the slightest texting delay.

Hope that helps!