It's understandable your hurt and angry at W right now. You have every right to be after her actions. There's alot of absolutes in your recent posts about never seeing her the way you once did. Maybe that is the case,maybe not. Just recognize your hurting right now and your feelings could be taking over your thought process more than you realize. W will always have a place in your heart, so try and take a step back and acknowledge your feelings might be affecting your actions again. You get to decide when your M is over, if that is what you want. Feelings/being emotional/irrational is how your W got to that point of being done in the M also, don't let it control you. Control yourself.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be