Wife Still in MLC but now left #9

[123Gwen]

So true faillure is not an option! Now I want to pose this question. What is success to you? I am sure you define it differently after the events of the last year or two. Imagine focusing on that rather than W.

Matt I know you are frustrated and venting her is a great way to work through things. I completely understand but try really hard not to put so much focus on your W. She is not your friend right now. She is more like an annoying co-worker at the moment. Someone you have to deal with but not somebody who cares about you.

You are letting W have a whole lot of space inside your head. Your daughters need you to detach even more. They need to see you strong and happy and independent. D15 is at an age where the best thing you can do is to accept what she is feeling and doing at that moment. Even if W hadn't left this would be a time of great change for D15. Embrace it with her and focus on the moment.

So getting back to defining success? Focus on that vision and that life without your W. Yes without your W. What does it look like? How would you feel? You have the chance right now to redefine everything. Let your girls see that Dad. If they are frustrated with W offer a work around. Treat W with as much detachment as possible. Show your girls how to do that and they will be stronger too.

Hang in there.