Rysinmans climb after WAW! #2

[alpha99]

'Is what you're doing/about to do bringing you closer to your goal?'

Hi Ry,

Think about the above. No matter the cause, I highly doubt you're going to reattract your W through shouting and arguing. It has to stop. I know about dealing with angry women who can't think straight - my W accused me of pouring water into a TV she had taken to her new place so it would blow up.

It seems you are good at stepping away from conflict at times and keeping on task in conversations, but work on how you are going to deal with 'hot' topics. How's your validating going? Clearly your W got the wrong end of the stick over the helmet. Does anything she say have some validity? Child or not, other people using my stuff without permission would bug me. Im not agreeing with your W, just saying maybe if you had validated her on the helmet but at the same.time pointed out 'wow, I guess I didn't think that would apply to a child' in a non sarcastic way things might have gone better.

For me, still a million miles from where I want to be in my sitch, the thing that has improved relations dramatically in recent weeks has been being able to find something to agree on in any conversation, being positive, and largely letting the rest go.