Getting Stronger

[EyeTie]

Hang in there HeavyD. It does get better. I am doing great without my W. I mean, don't get me wrong. I do miss her, I miss her company, I miss our plans for the future, etc. BUT that was the OLD her. That is what I keep telling myself, that the W that became a WW is NOT the woman I married, I do NOT miss that person.

Maybe one day she will have a moment of clarity, as alcoholics talk about, where it all of a sudden becomes real, but I am not going to wait and mope for that to possibly happen. Instead I am going to do things that will make me definitely happier. GAL is the key, the 180 is second and the rules are great too. The more you GAL, the less you think about your situation and her. The more you 180, the less connected you stay to her. The rules help break patterns that you would normally do.

Even right now, if my WW came back and said she wanted to work things through, I would probably say "nope, not interested" or "prove it". I might not be happy 100% of the time, but I am at least 80% of the time. And frankly, for the majority of my marriage, I was at a 70%. Remember the bad times along with the good ones and things become a lot easier to handle. Good luck man, stick to it.