but i really dont think I'm dwelling on this point at all. it is not something I expect her to even change. It would be nice if she was more mindful of it, but it is NOT a condition or anything.
Pyrite, even though you state it's not a condition I'd caution you on mentally focusing on her flaws. Even if you don't bring them up, I'm guessing she can tell that you have all these negative thoughts about her. That's not going to attract her back to you. We know you love her or you likely wouldn't be here. Can you give us some things you like about her?
Originally Posted By: Pyrite
She would offer to do the dishes or something, and my attitude always found some excuse not to graciously accept, even criticise her at times.
I get the impression from your posts that you felt you did everything and she did nothing. Did you ever ask her to help? Often we expect our spouses to anticipate our needs/wants. They aren't mind readers. We need to communicate these things to them. It's also important to realize they might not do things our way, but that doesn't mean their way is wrong. It's just different.
It seems like you set her up for constant failure because she could never be perfect enough. What we emphasize grows. If you mainly point out her faults, eventually that's all you (and she while she's with you) will see.
Me: 30 H: 35 M: 5 years S2 Signs of MLC started Feb 2014 BD - PA July 2014 Piecing/reconciling late July 2014
