My fail of sadness....

[BW911]

I don't know how to respond to her at this point because, as far as I know, she doesnt know I know about the OM. She'll text me about stuff about our son, and about some bill she thought she lost but now she found it.... I mean.... how do I respond to stuff like that? Go dark? Be pleasant? Be short?

I read Sandi's 37 rules and I got into her LBS/WW threads (I believe I went through 2 sets of 11/12 pages...lol). Its all GREAT stuff!

I know I need to detach. So, I'm doing that. But, I also read you have to do it right. And I'm not quite sure how to do that. My DB coach also gave me stuff to do too.

I also read at one point that, if a person you were dating cheated on you, you wouldn't give them the time of day. Which is true, when I was dating women, I would just not talk to them anymore if they were trying to play me. Simple as that. So... do I go about this the same way?

The other question is.... IS this cheating? We are separated. Not divorced yet, but is it cheating if we are separated? I think it is because we are still married. She obviously does not.

This is all so horrible. Thanks for the support y'all..... and Bob, thanks for adding me to your prayers too. I'll add you to mine as well.