You have had another busy week and I'm just getting back up to speed here...

((( Cathy )))

I can not even begin to compare what it is like to be in your shoes, but you are an AMAZING woman!!!

You know what you want and will stand firm and fight for it.
You know what unconditional love is and have the strength to give it.

... and what such great support and advise you've been getting and I would agree on checking out Al-Anon. Cyber (((hugs))) & long distance words can only go so far, but seeing the support in one's expression when you talk to them face-to-face is so much more.

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When we got home I was putting his clothes away, the ones he put in to baskets and H wanted to know what I was putting them away? I didn't say anything and he said it again and then that he was moving out so why was I putting his stuff back into drawers. I said "because it's where they belong" and continued to put things away. H helped a little bit.

This little bit just sums it up. Your H is one verrrry confused pup!! ... and your response was so simple ... sooo right on the mark on so many levels that he couldn't help but get the message! When I read he started to help, I could help but smile .

Your H knows he is living in dark times right now and he is faced with a long and arduous road in front of him, but he does hear that you are keeping a place for him and you will leave the light on until he gets there.

and to go back a bit...

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I don't have a way with words like so many other well respected DBers do, thus my hesitation to post to others. Although I do have days when I can be very articulate. For the most part have trouble putting thoughts to words.

Cathy, you could have copied this from on of my earlier threads! and sometimes it takes me a long time to type it all out (Which is why I don't get around as much as I would like...) , but its not so much how you say it that is important, but what you have to share that helps people the most and is of most value ... and I believe you have a LOTS of valuable thoughts to share. So please don't hold back.

'til later,
KAW