Hello everyone just thought i would update you all. had a conversation with W about the expectation of me giving her extra money and such. At first things got a bit heated, I explained to her that if she was going to keep making rude comments i was finished talk. She agreed and stopped. She stated that she was entitled to half the money because she is my W. I told her, though you are legally my W, you are literally not my W and i have not been your H for a while now. She begins to say that I pushed her into the affair, and that i am not without blame in the situation. I knew this was not where i wanted this conversation to go. So i just said look there are things i could have done better but we are all responsible for our own actions no matter what we may think. She stated "I have taken responsibility for my actions" I wanted to say B.S. but i just validated and asked to get back to the topic that we met to discuss! After a lengthy back and forth discussion, she conceded that after everything that has happened her asking for more money was not the right thing to do.
So fast forward four days later. Easter Sunday, I visited a buddies place and had a good day. One of his kids had never been on a motorcycle before and she asked if i could give her a ride. Of course i didn’t say no. So i went home since we lived right up the street grabbed my W's helmet and gave the kid a ride. Tuesday i get a nasty text asking where her helmet was. I stated what i had done and i apologized for leaving the helmet in my bike but i would be dropping off ASAP if she needed it. Her response was "I would appreciate if you would ask me to use my stuff, to let another woman use my stuff is rude and downright disrespectful." I will be honest this floored me. Specifically because, it was a child that used it. So i said you know what i am not going to deal with this, and furthermore i will just buy you another dang helmet! that is exactly what i did, I bought her a new one. She came in the house and said "you didn’t have to buy me a new helmet" i said yes i did, i am not going to play this game. she said its just the fact that you didn’t ask me to let another girl use my helmet. I told her, you know what W it was a child, an innocent act of giving a child a motorcycle ride and your calling it rude and disrespectful. I said i don’t know who you are anymore and frankly this entire situation has pissed me off. I'm done with this. i walked away and did my thing. She came back about 5 minutes later and said she was sorry! Wow i never expected that. I left it at that and went to the gym to burn off some steam.
I didn’t mean to get heated and argue with her but enough was enough on that situation. On a positive note i closed on my new apartment today so i will be moving in by the 18th.
